3 Things That Kill Potential

3 Things That Kill Potential

Have you ever heard of Christmas in July? What about New Year’s in May? I’m guessing you’ve heard of the first, but not the latter. I may or may not have just invented that one. Working on a college campus, this time of year is all about promise, potential, and embracing the possibilities for the future – making it feel a bit like the excitement at New Year’s. The refrains of Pomp and Circumstance bring tears to eyes as spirits leap and the promise of bright futures are considered. But, you don’t have to be a new graduate to look ahead with optimism and anticipation. As long as you have breath in your lungs, there’s a purpose in your spirit! Why not be inspired by the excitement in the air? On your journey to a brighter future, watch out for these three things that can kill your potential: A limited definition of success – Be willing to adapt your definition of success based on your chapter in life. Sometimes success is obvious. It’s winning a championship or getting your dream job or promotion. Other times, success is far more subtle. When life is challenging, we need to be free to modify our definition. To a new mom, success could be showering and getting dressed before noon. To someone overwhelmed by their finances success might be opening all of their mail and making a plan on how they will pay their bills. Limiting your definition of success robs you of recognizing key victories that motivate you and propel you to life’s big wins. The wrong playlist – What are you...

5 Things You Can Do to be Free from Wanting to be Liked

I remember the loud whisper that swept over my sixth grade English class like it was yesterday. “She got braces,” the booming attempted whisper announced to my entire class. I handed my teacher a late pass and slid into my seat wishing I could entirely disappear. The words said so much to the insecure girl I was in the sixth-grade. Have you ever noticed how we can hear or see one thing, but we run it through the filter of our own insecurity, we magnify the message and amplify the negative that we choose to interpret? It stings. Our hearts hear “You’re different.” “You’re not good enough.” Or even “You’re not liked.” Feelings of inadequacy are far from limited to insecure sixth graders with new braces. In fact, in this day and age it’s even easier to slide down this slippery slope because of instant feedback on social media. Have you ever caught yourself checking how many likes or comments you have for a status on Facebook, or Instagram? Or maybe find yourself judging your new attempt at Periscope by the number of hearts that scrolled or didn’t scroll across your screen. Or have you ever found yourself waiting for a reply to a text or email only to interpret the silence as a lack of acceptance? We want to be accepted, or even to be liked. With people speaking their minds online now more than ever, it’s easy to be wounded by the words of others. What can you do? Choose to smile anyways. – Choose to positively impact the world around you. Touch the water knowing it causes a ripple,...