What the Video Doesn’t Show…

Have you seen the video?” one friend asked. Another asked if I thought the NFL got it right. I did see the video. You’ve probably seen it too – the one that’s making its rounds on the news. But I don’t think it’s really about the NFL. It’s not even about what happened in that elevator. It’s about much more than that. All across the country news reporters are shaking their heads in disgust. People are angrily taking to social media or conversations around the water cooler to debate if the NFL got it right. But, is that where our focus should be? If every abuser in this nation lost their jobs today, would that make the situation better? Would that really provide justice? Would that heal our society, our families, or our relationships? In all the discussions I’ve heard over the past few days, I haven’t heard one that has used this moment to educate. The reality is, domestic abuse is far too common. It’s the crime that so often hides behind closed doors. It’s our neighbors, our coworkers, our friends, our sisters, our brothers, or it’s us. It hides in the shadows. We hope it will go away by itself but, it doesn’t. What angers us about the video is we see abuse for what it is – really, really wrong It destroys families, marriages, and individuals. When it’s right in front of us, we’re enraged, as we should be. But even though we might not see it so clearly every day, the truth is – it is right in front of us on a daily basis....